Are you taking responsibility for your life? Are you taking responsibility for your actions?
I can talk from personal experience here. There will come a time in your life where you stop and take a deep breathe, ask yourself these questions and you will need to answer them honestly.
There was a time in my life where this exact situation happened. After my divorce, I had to face up to the truth within myself – that I wasn’t happy and I was making unrealistic choices for myself. I had to learn how to love myself instead of just expecting that I could hide from real feelings. I had to learn that life doesn’t reward repression or fear, but love and grace. I had to stop acting like a victim and stand on my own two feet and take responsibility.
You are totally responsible for your life. We are adults now, we can’t keep blaming our family, our parents, for what has or is happening in our life. Of course, there is a process that we need to go through, to get to the point of acknowledging this. It’s time now to take action, to take full responsibility for your life.
The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the more you are able to create the future you seek.
This can be a topic of conversation that is confronting, it’s one we all must have with ourselves to create change and growth to live an empowered life. We too often blame others for what is going wrong in our life, this is the easy way out, we are avoiding facing the true reality of where our life is at.
I would like to share with you, some action steps, to start to take responsibility for your life;
1. Start to become more consciously aware of your thoughts and your voice. Eliminate excuses and blame. The way to do this, is listen to those voices inside your head, listen to your voice when you speak. Are you blaming others for situations that don’t go the way you want them too? Are you blaming others, so you can feel better within yourself? We need to start to take responsibility and work out what is really going on.
2. Work on your self confidence. When your confidence starts to build you look at life, yourself and others very differently, you start to live a life of compassion, love and support, not blame.
3. Work out, where in your life do you need to take responsibility? What is the thing in your life that is holding you back? Write the answers to these questions down. Be honest, get everything onto paper and out of your mind. It’s amazing how much clarity we get when we write things down.
4. It’s a choice now, to create change & take responsibility. Write a list of things that you need to do, to take responsibility for your situation.
5. Take action TODAY. Start ticking off each action step from your list of things you need to do.
When you start to take responsibility for your actions, you dissolve the negativity in your mind and you free space for positive thoughts, your energy vibration starts to become pure and positive. Instead of spending time blaming others for your actions, use this energy to set your next goal, whether this is a personal, family, business, or work goal, remember what we focus on creates our reality.
Look at this message as a gift, taking personal responsibility is vital for your growth and long term happiness. I want to guide you to this place, I need to push you out of your comfort zone, to create a space inside of you for change. To do this we need to reach a point inside of ourselves that FEELS the uncomfortable emotion around this question; ‘Are you taking responsibility for your life?’
I would love you to share, your thoughts and feelings to help guide other women to a place of internal peace and happiness. I’m always here if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to contact me at anytime support@rachaelcampbell.com
Much love and blessings always,
This is a powerful post for me. I’ve learnt recently [through Rachael’s coaching] that I am a pro at playing the victim!! I have realised it is far easier to blame others for things that have gone wrong in my life, rather than take responsibility for my own decisions/actions/life. We are not helpless victims in our own life, we can draw strength and take control, but it takes hard work and commitment. And it’s a constant battle, but a battle worth fighting in my opinion. My tips for taking control and responsibility for your life would be to: (1) start mentoring/coaching with Rachael for honest and real guidance and perspective, and (2) buy a copy of Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life” 🙂
Awe what a beautiful message to share, thank you so much Ash. You should be SO proud of how far you have come in such a short period of time. Even by being so honest in your message today, to our community of women is another big step in taking personal responsibility. It’s incredible the amount of growth that comes from doing so. WELL DONE, darling. Keep striving everyday for growth, compassion, self love and your inner beauty, I can see it flowing out of you more and more every week. BIG KISSES X
Clearing that negative space in your head is such a difficult thing to achieve – it takes time, awareness, and absolute resolve.
I though I was a fairly positive person 4 months ago, before I was diagnosed with cancer at 23 (I get a 3 month check up this week to make sure it’s all gone and not dragging me away anytime soon – staying positive!) That was my ‘moment’.
After my surgery I tried to stay positive, which even with my amazing partner (he is incredibly supportive) and supportive network of friends I found difficult. After pathology showed it was not as bad as we feared, and something we can manage and get rid of, I decided I hadn’t been positive at all. This was my turnaround point – I had been given a fresh start, and it was time to start taking advantage of it.
I’m not spiritual or religious in any sense of the words, but I wake up with an awareness that I choose what I do – I choose to be positive or negative, I choose how I react to difficult things in my life…and that change in mentality has made all the difference. I find it easier to deal with stress, I am happier than I ever have been before, I’m getting back into my clean eating and exercise that during my time of being down as I faced the unknown I had let slip.
I have clear goals. I have amazing, positive people around me. I feel empowered that regardless of my physical health at each check up, I make the choice of how to deal with it. That’s a powerful thing.
Hi Nicole, what an amazing journey you have had and an incredible spirit you are. I love your statement ‘Clearing that negative space in your head is such a difficult thing to achieve – it takes time, awareness, and absolute resolve’. Any form of healing takes awareness and time, patience definitely becomes your best friend. Thank you so much for sharing your story with our community of women, I know many women will be very inspired to read this message. Lovely to hear from you. Much love and blessing Rach xx