We are the only ones capable of making changes in our lives. No one else, no matter how much they care or how great their intentions, can make an effective change on another person’s life. It is up to each of us to take steps towards improving any situation we find unsatisfying.
Most of us agree that this is true and simple enough to understand. In fact, for those who do want to make changes, we probably know exactly what needs to be done. So why don’t we take these steps? Paradigms.
I’ve touched on paradigms before, but it is so important to understand the effect of these subconscious beliefs on our lives. You see, you can know exactly what to do to change anything you are not happy with and still not be able to make these changes, even if you try! The difficulty is in shifting existing paradigms to match your goals and desires, so that your actions produce the results you want.
Let’s use entrepreneurs as an example. Most successful entrepreneurs admit to thinking outside the box, taking risks and working smart to make their dreams happen. We know this works; we’ve seen it happen to others over and over. But most of us have been conditioned to “work hard, and you will be successful.” We don’t take chances on something new, because stepping outside our security blankets is so different from what we’ve been programmed to believe. It’s no wonder many of us never take action!
The same way, it is easy to see how loving yourself leads to positivity and improves life tenfold, but in our subconscious minds, we may possess paradigms that block us from taking steps towards this self-love.
Have you ever felt selfish for putting yourself before others, even if you knew deep down that you were making the right decision? Can you think of a time when those feelings of guilt led to not taking the steps you needed to better yourself? Or a time when you did take action, but were unsatisfied with the results? This is because your desire clashes with your paradigms, those thoughts and beliefs on a subconscious level, and even if you know what to do, these feelings can actually make taking action seem impossible.
The good news is we have the ultimate control over each of our paradigms. Just as we have control over our conscious thoughts and actions, we can change the deeply planted belief systems that we possess. One of the first, and most important ideas I address in my program, Thinking Into Results, is that our thoughts control our actions, behaviors, habits and more, and sometimes these thoughts and beliefs operate on a level we’re not even aware of.
Can you think of a set of beliefs or feelings you may have that could be holding you back from making the positive changes you want to see in your life? Grab your journal and jot some of these thoughts down. How can you change this? I’d love to hear some as well, if you’re up to sharing in the comments below!
Wishing you a beautiful day.
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