We know our bodies are made up of many muscles, and we must exercise and build these muscles to remain healthy. I believe the most important muscle we can train is not physical, but emotional.
Self love is the most important thing we can give to ourselves, the most important muscle we can build, the strongest. There is an African proverb: “When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.” When we strengthen our self love and truly appreciate and accept ourselves from the inside out, we alone hold the power and key to our self-worth.
Have you ever heard that to truly give love, you must first love yourself? If we don’t take time to build self-love, how can we attract healthy friendships or relationships? How can we expect others to give love to us if we don’t feel we are worthy? Without a strong sense of self love, we do not have much to give.
I know now how valuable self love is, but this realization did not come easily for me. For 34 years, I experienced a debilitating feeling of lack, the lack of love for myself. Finding that love has easily been the biggest challenge of my life, but these five steps, and hard work, have helped me to see why I did not love myself and why I deserved better.
It is difficult to love yourself if you are not aware of the thoughts and actions that lead you to lack self love. What beliefs and thoughts are keeping you from the self love that you deserve?
Likewise, it is difficult to begin loving yourself and become a healthy person if you harbor negative thoughts about yourself and your flaws. Some of your thoughts about yourself may be negative, and it is important to understand and accept these thoughts. The first step to making any change is first accepting what is.
3. Make realistic changes
Once you identify and accept whatever thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself, you can begin to change and adjust your thoughts to reflect positive self-image and self love.
It is important to realize that you will still make mistakes. Even the most dedicated person with the best intentions is not perfect. Pushing toward perfection is not healthy, since none of us can be perfect. Instead, when you make mistakes, accept them and move on. Refuse to allow that negative inner voice to beat you up.
4. Don’t compare yourself you others
You are an emotional, spiritual, unique being. No one is quite like you, and you are not like anyone else. Rather than try to be like someone else, realize what you have to offer, and embrace your own intuition.
5. Surround yourself with supportive people
Your thoughts and beliefs have existed for a very long time, it does not make sense to expect to move past them easily and without help. As you work toward self love, surround yourself with loving individuals who will support your journey to a happy, fulfilling life.
As someone who struggled for 34 years with finding self love and happiness, I feel it is so important to understand why we experience lack of love, heal these scars and be guided intuitively by our souls to a place of self empowerment. No matter who else you meet, you are the most important person in your life, and no one has the ability to provide the love you can give yourself.
Are you ready to find the love within yourself that you deserve? Start with the first of these steps, and work to become aware of any thoughts, beliefs or feelings you have that may keep you from loving yourself completely.
Wishing you a beautiful day.
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